I have deleted all dating apps. I have come to the conclusion that these apps are not for me, and I have deleted them.
There are a few reasons why I have decided to delete dating apps. Firstly, I find that the superficial nature of these apps does not align with my values. Swiping left or right based on a few photos and a short bio feels impersonal and shallow. I believe that true connections are built on more than just physical appearance or a few shared interests.
Additionally, I have found that using dating apps can be a time-consuming and energy-draining process. It can be difficult to sift through countless profiles and messages to find someone who seems compatible. Furthermore, the pressure to constantly be checking the app and responding to messages is a nightmare.
Perhaps most importantly, I have come to the realization that I do not need a dating app to find meaningful connections with others. In fact, I find that it may even be impossible. Dating apps make things like romance feel transactional and artificial. It makes love feel like a commodity that can be swiped upon by chance on phones.
As well as this, it makes relationships less meaningful. After all, if I can simply find another person within a few hours, there are no stakes in the potential relationship I am developing now. the grass will always remain greener. There will always be another person to find. There will always be more opportunity, and as a result I think people find it extremely difficult to commit to any one relationship now. Why? Because they don’t have to. There is always someone else to find on your phone.
Deleting dating apps has allowed me to focus more on meaningful connections and to prioritize my time and energy accordingly. I no longer feel the pressure to constantly be swiping or responding to messages, and I can fully engage in the present moment without distraction.
Of course, this is a personal decision and everyone's experiences with dating apps will vary. Some people may find that they have had positive experiences and have made meaningful connections through these platforms. However, for me, deleting dating apps has been a liberating and empowering decision. It also makes me feel less inclined to date multiple people at the same time, which I think is a very good development.
As an author, I am always exploring the complexities of human relationships and connections. While dating apps may be a convenient tool for meeting new people, they make us more shallow and less willing to be in something for the long haul. Stepping out of that lane has been a very good decision indeed.